We all have pain in our lives one
way or another. Sometimes it is physical pain other times it could be emotional
pain. Physical pain is easily spotted by others and no explanation is needed.
On the other hand, emotional pain is felt inwards, and something we carry with
us. Like a heavy bag that drags us down. Unless we verbalize to those around
us, we should not expect them to know the pain we are carrying.
I am very guilty of putting inward the hurt
people do to me and my emotions baggage. I usually smile and
laugh as a front to the pain I am actually feeling. Inside I believe that
I am never good enough for anyone and that I have to prove that self-worth.
Even if it kills me, and in the past, it almost has on more than 1 occasion.
When others take advantage of my good nature and treat me like a doormat, I
accept that and move on like nothing has happened. No is a word I rarely say,
it is almost always yes, what do you need, how can I help, sure thing I got
this. Sadly I thought that those around me would return the favor or notice
that I was drowning. There are many things I wish I would have learned and
understood when I was younger.
In the past few months, there are a
few hard lessons that I have learned:
- People will treat you in the way you let them, and do
not expect how I treat someone to be returned in the same fashion. Treat
them well because you can and not for any reward.
“Be
kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God forgave you.”
(Ephesians 4:34 English Standard Version)
“Let
each of you look not only to his own interest but also to the interest of
others. (Philippians 2:4 English Standard
Version)
- I can not expect people to know something is
wrong unless I verbalize it. No one is a mind reader.
“For
who knows a person’s thoughts except for that person’s own spirit, and no one can
know God’s thoughts except God’s own Spirit.” (1 Corinthians 2:11 New Living
Translation)
- You are the common thing in your own repeatable issues
and problem.
"Just
so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents
than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.” (Luke 15:7
English Standard Version)
- You need to know how to set boundaries, say no and to
put yourself and God first.
“For
each will have to bear his own load. (Galatians 6:5 English Standard
Version)
- Life is a mess and stuff happens, just don't make your
mess something you dwell on make it your message and rise above it.
"I
have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith
- Your happiness should and can not depend on anyone else
but you.
“With joy, you will draw waters from the wells of salvation.” (Isaiah 12:3 English
Standard Version)
“a glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is crushed.”
(Proverbs 12:13 English Standard Version)
- People will let you down, it is how you forgive them
and move on that is important.
"You
have heard that it was said, 'An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth' But I
tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right
cheek, turn the other cheek to him also."(Matthew 5: 38-39 New King
James Version)
“Then
Peter approaching asked him, ‘Lord, if my brother sins against me, how often must
I forgive him? As many as seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I say to you, not
seven times but seventy-seven times’” (Matthew 18: 21 - 22 New King James
Version)
- Holding on to hurt feeling only hurts you in the long
run. Instead, hold on to love.
“For now there are faith, hope, and love. But of these three,
the greatest is love. (1 Corinthians 13:13 Contemporary English Version)
- Do not take anything in life granted. Something you
have today can be gone tomorrow.
"Blessed
is the man who trusts in the LORD. And whose hope is the LORD. For he shall be
like a tree planted by the waters. Which spreads out its roots by the river.
And will not fear when heat comes, But its leaf will be green, and will not be
anxious in the year of drought. Nor will cease from yielding fruit.” (Jeremiah
17: 7-8 New King James Version
- When you try to do the right thing most of the time it
might be tough, but the reward will always be worth it.
“And whatever you say or do should be done in the name of the
Lord Jesus, as you give thanks to God the Father because of him.” (Colossians
3:17 – Contemporary English Version)
- You can choose who is in your life and who is not.
“The
righteous should choose his friends carefully, For the way of the wicked leads
them astray.” ( Proverbs 12:26 – New King James Version)
“Just
as iron sharpens iron, friends sharpen the minds of each other.” (Proverbs
27:17 Contemporary English Version)
- Work is important as we all need money to live, but
don't let work become your life as it is more important to live life and enjoy things around you.
“Do
not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your
mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of
God.” (Romans 12:2 New King James Version)
“For
what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?
Or what will a man give exchange for his soul?” (Mark 8:36-37 New King James
Version)
- In a world where most people are trying to be
someone else, be yourself it is a road worth taking.
“But
the LORD told him, ‘Samuel, don’t think Eliab is the one just because he’s tall
and handsome. He isn’t the one I’ve chosen. People judge others by what they
look like, but I judge people by what is in their hearts.’” (1 Samuel 16:7 –
Contemporary English Version)
- When you find your way to God, take that leap, it is
worth it.
"Again
the kingdom of heaven is like a treasure hidden in a field, which a man found
and hid; and for the joy, over it, he goes and sells all that he has and buys
the field. Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking beautiful
pearls, who when he has found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that
he has and bought it" (Matthew 13: 44-46 New King James Version)
“Seek
his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” (Provers 3:6
New Living Translation)
- Keep your promises and abide by your words.
“Let
your Yes mean Yes, and your No mean No.” (Matthew 5:37 New King James
Version).
"By
your words, you will be acquitted, and by your words, you will be
condemned. (Matthew
12: 37 New King James Version)
- Do not worry about everything
in life, as you will forget to live and worrying will consume you.
“And
who of you by worrying and being anxious can add one unit of measure to his stature
or to the span of his life.” (Matthew 6:27 Amplified Version)
“Therefore
do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has
enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34 New Living Translation)
17. Have faith that he
has a plan for you
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek and
you will; knock, and it will be open for you.” (Matthew 7:7 English Standard
Version)
18. Be mindful of what you say as words can truly hurt
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh
word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1 English Standard Version)
©Jasmin Roussy